I’ll never understand why, but the guy that most girls seem to want is the one who sits idle and lives “the life” vicariously through his savvy, suave “ladies man” type of friends. But women hardly get to see a man for what he’s worth because he either has no confidence at all or sadly mistakes ego for confidence and throws it around like candy at a parade.. Women like the attention from that type of man, yes but there is a point at which it just gets old. “Too much of a good thing?” (HA! Right! That’s always the mans side of the story).

But really, when a man is overly concerned about what kind of impression he makes, he’s not really thinking about what women want anymore. Instead he’s thinking about what kind of competition he’s up against. It gets to a point I think where women aren’t even a variable in the equation. That’s what we call “metro sexual”. I’m not sure about other ladies but I’m certainly not interested in a guy that can sport J-Lo shades and uses more moisturizer and hair products than I do…AWKWARD!! Since when are women attracted to men prettier than they are? WTF?? Right?

Now back to the confidence issue….It’s much nicer when a guy is more confident in who he is rather than what he makes himself out to be. I understand that its natural for all male species to “put on that show” for the ladies. For instance the peacock…the males have that big ass pretty tail and strut around like they do, getting ALL the chicks…ha-ha. And they seem happy enough, but I’m not sure it always has to be that extreme. Tigers and bunnies eat there young when they stress out…and they say that that’s nature. Damn good thing humans sat that one out huh? I wouldn’t be around if we hadn’t. Whew! What I’m saying is…thank goodness for evolution. I like a man who can be happy with himself. Without all the hair products and fancy regalia. I like a real man like a fat kid likes cake.

If this is a common reaction you may want to reevaluate your seduction tactics

This has nothing and everything to do with seduction. When life gives you lemons you make lemonade…WHAaaaaaT?? Well, ya know what? I don’t even like lemonade. It gives me heart burn.  I like peaches…where is all the damned peachade. I like watermelon..I’m down for some watermelon juice!! Am I the only one? I’m not gonna sit back and let life “give’ me what it wants to.. While it sits back and laughs at the irony of it all. I’ll grab life by the horns and I’m gonna take what I want from it. PPSSSHHH!!!! If I want peachade, then I’m having peachade. Why are people so afraid to go out and get what they want? What do you have to lose? You risk everything worth anything, by risking nothing at all. If they can squeeze juice out of a carrot I’m sure I can pull this off.  So you can sit around and wish you had this and wish you had that, but if you are too afraid to even try to get what you want, then……get bent!

Why are guys so weird??? Do they even know what they want?? I don’t really think that most of them do. Its funny, you hear some guys say..”Man, I hate being lonely…” or “I wish I had someone like that” or “It’d be nice to come home to someone after work”. Blah Blah Blah you hear it all. But those same guys are the ones that are single the longest…seriously. What is going on there? They have a series of one night stands (if it even lasts the whole night), then continue to complain that they are “so lonely”.. Is that just a ploy to get the attention of the next unsuspecting victim? Or is it a case of instant gratification because they have low self esteem? Or is it something else altogether?? I am genuinely curious.

It never fails when a bunch of girls go out they are going to get hit on.  But you almost always have the awkward guy that looks you up an down and takes for freaking ever to get around to coming and talking to you. . hahaha. Then 9 times out of 10 they don’t know what to say or how to keep a conversation going.  Poor guy. It could have been sufficiently awkward for me too but I was prepared because…i seen it coming from a mile away.  How sad.

 I’d like to also like to add to what I wrote below that the only time I beleive man has control over the situation is when he has truely “charmed”  or “captivated” her.  That is the point when most women lose control of the situation, voluntarily or involuntarily (preferably involuntarily )  So…guys if you think you have a woman almost “convinced” or “persuaded” I think you might be on the wrong track and you might want to try to take it to the previous level and stay there with that particular girl…Try a different approach next time with someone else.  I know that when a guy tries to hard to win me over…its done. But who knows… maybe that’s just me?? Any other opinions?

OK, I was asked recently what my perspective on the art of seduction is and I gotta say…..omfgosh!!  There are so many men out there that need a hand (or a freaking book) It’s really kind of fascinating …You know what I’m talking about ladies.  Some guys have it and some guys….well, just don’t.  It is an art form and if it’s not executed properly, you end up either horrified completely or feeling immensely sorry for the guy.  Neither is a good position for either person involved. :(  Have you ever seen night at the Roxbury? Omfg! ya… nuff said! 

Also, guys must understand that women know that there is a fine line between charming and deceiving and, yes, most of us pick up on it.  There are those two types of seducing…you can have us completely charmed or you can have us merely convinced…we allow both to happen. But only one will ever get you where you want to be.  Hint: Confidence is key…conceit is “butt”!!! 

Read on, I have some seriously comical stories that I will be posting in the near future. In the meantime you can post a comment and I’ll try to respond in a timely manner.