Fair enough…
11.06.07
Alright, I’ll even this out a lil bit. Its only fair. Women have serious relationship issues too! Shit, women have the WHOLE DAMNED SUBSCRIPTION!! The other day I was talking to a friend and she mentioned how hard it is to keep the guy once you get him. By this I mean she didn’t want him anymore. She was bored. She knows she loves him but is no longer in love with him. Imagine. He worked so hard to get her..she loved the idea of it all. They fell in love, got married, had babies…and so on. THEN…all of a sudden it wasn’t all sunshine and bon-bons. She had fallen out of love. So had he.
How does one deal with this. I had a little insight from another friend (a man) who feels like there is so much pressure on the man to be the “seducer” and make her feel like they had just met. You know..the “brand new bon-bons everyday” stage. Now, I understand where both are coming from. So where is the happy medium? Is there really one at all? He suggests that a man make a last ditch effort to make his woman feel like the relationship is fresh and new…to be the man she wants….and if it doesnt work to hit the road.
I suppose that is fair. But, women cant always expect the man to be the one to make all the moves, to be the one to keep things alive, to be the sole seducer. Women need to also step up and make that effort too. I can honestly say it bothers me when a woman complains about how the relationship is going down the tubes, but sits on her ass and wants the man to come to her..always. WHAT IS THAT???!!!! Get off your ass, quit feeling sorry for yourself, grow up and remind him why he fell in love in the first place!!!! I’ll never let my man forget why he fell in love with me…I will remind him all of the time. 
That just sounds natural to me!! That’s why relationships fail!! PEOPLE GET LAZY!! They get lazy and switch on the “Auto Pilot” and let life take them places they don’t even want to go!! GET A GRIP PEOPLE!!!
On the other hand some cases are too far gone. The relationship slips into atrophy. Sad, yes, but none the less a fact of life. Seriously, people, if you have tried to remind each other of the way you ended up falling so in love with each other, and nothing seems to spark that fire in your heart…you may need to look deep inside and figure out what YOU really want. Maybe stop obssesing so much about what THEY want (since they are so indecisive anyway). You can’t squeeze blood from a rock. You don’t want to be miserable the rest of your life when you KNOW that there could be “that perfect someone” out there. Sometimes its just better to cut your losses and move on. I know its hard to let go..but sometimes you just have to. And I promise it wont kill you.
